The Days Events
Well the day and come and gone and we did not get any snow. Not even a flake. I knew that was going to happen this morning when we got up and the grass was still green. We always get this big hype and then nothing happens.
Court went well. Child support enforcement was there to represent my daughter and she only needed to provide her financial statement. The judge denied the dad's appeal to have his support lowered. It is only based on $8.50 an hour and the judge said even if she based it on minimum wage it wouldn't be enough difference to make it lower..and advised him if he gets a higher paying job that it can be raised. Child support enforcement ask for a jail sentence to be suspended today, but the judge gave him a break and told him to be back in court in 60 days. They expect him to get a job by then and at that time a decision is made on the arrears, so he is in deep do do if he doesn't get some cash flow soon.
This is all good for my daughter but it to be honest it scares me because now he is mad and we feel like he will use my grandson as a pawn to get to my daughter. He doesn't care about his son and has not made any attempt to see him in over a year, but we are concerned that he will take the attitude that if he has to pay for him he wants to take him for the weekends.
If that happens we will be back in court to fight the visitation order because my grandson no longer remembers this man or his family.
He also made some remarks to my daughter about how it is against the law for her to being living with her boyfriend with his son..
It just breaks my heart that this man can just waltz in and disrupt her life and my grandson's life.
Anyway that is enough of ranting for today..
Court went well. Child support enforcement was there to represent my daughter and she only needed to provide her financial statement. The judge denied the dad's appeal to have his support lowered. It is only based on $8.50 an hour and the judge said even if she based it on minimum wage it wouldn't be enough difference to make it lower..and advised him if he gets a higher paying job that it can be raised. Child support enforcement ask for a jail sentence to be suspended today, but the judge gave him a break and told him to be back in court in 60 days. They expect him to get a job by then and at that time a decision is made on the arrears, so he is in deep do do if he doesn't get some cash flow soon.
This is all good for my daughter but it to be honest it scares me because now he is mad and we feel like he will use my grandson as a pawn to get to my daughter. He doesn't care about his son and has not made any attempt to see him in over a year, but we are concerned that he will take the attitude that if he has to pay for him he wants to take him for the weekends.
If that happens we will be back in court to fight the visitation order because my grandson no longer remembers this man or his family.
He also made some remarks to my daughter about how it is against the law for her to being living with her boyfriend with his son..
It just breaks my heart that this man can just waltz in and disrupt her life and my grandson's life.
Anyway that is enough of ranting for today..
Labels: Chit Chat, Family Life
posted by Patty at
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
3 Comments:
Glad it went well Patty--but I know that you must be worried. Unstable people will do anything for revenge. I'll keep you and your daughter in our prayers.
Hugs,
Betsy
Sorry you didn't get snow. They got 6 inches in Fayetteville, NC I think.. We had about 2 inches total.
I know how you feel, i've had dealings with the deadbeat dad trouble. If he's a not only a druggie but a dealer then he should be careful about who he threatens, they might be privvy to insider knowledge that could cause him plenty of trouble.
the thing is with this type of character they blow off occasionally, demanding their rights as fathers but it rarely lasts, looking after and providing for a small child would cause a big hole in daddys fun time. They shout to scare you but it's too much like hard work and responsibility to actually step up to the mark and actually do the right thing. Sending lots of positive energy to you, your daughter and the innocent little man caught up in the middle of all this. For his sake alone i wish for the best possible outcome for him xXx
Hopefully he will just leave it as it is and not bother your daughter about visitation; he obviously has no interest in his own son and going to court also takes time and money - neither of which I'm sure he's willing to spend.
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