Friday, September 4, 2009

Yowling and howlng

It's the full moon, and if things don't get better than they have been the last few days your going to  find me outside howling at it like the crazy woman I am.

It seems like it is always something around here. I mentioned how my sister moved out, and how heart broken she is. So of course I am upset for her. This all happened over the weekend. Then on Tues/ actually Wed. morning about 5 AM. my phone rang. It was my daughter. She had a huge fight with her boyfriend and was calling to tell me she was on the way over. It seems that he went to work that night (he works over nights a few nights a week at Wal-Mart) and was suppose to get off at 2. She woke up about 3:30 and he wasn't home. She started calling him and got no answer, Finally about 4:15 he comes in. Lies to her, telling her he worked late and went to bed. Suspision she checks his phone for outgoing and in going calls. She finds that about 10 minutes after he was suppose to get off work at 2, he called someone. Being the typical woman that she is she called the number and got the answering machine of a girl/young woman. She promptly woke him up demanding to know who the girl was. At this point he confessed and told her that he had been out after work (at 2) smoking pot with some friends from work and that this girl was with them. He was driving my daughters car, which is registered in my ex husbands name.

So here he is..out partying, smoking dope and running around in the middle of night with friends..Gee that really makes me like this jerk better...NOT

My daughter did pack a bag, and came home for the day, but went back last night. I really want to smack her, but I can't force her to leave him..
Even his own mom talked to her and told her he isn't going to change.
She has to learn things the hard way.

I have lost what little respect I had left for the boyfriend (and believe me it wasn't much). My daughter is on my s**t list for lying to me, because she knew he had smoked pot before. I am really angry about it. She told me he didn't do drugs. I've told her things are only going to get worst when the baby comes..Like I said she has to learn the hard way. I can only tell her and be here for her, I can't live her life for her. She is going to have to do this on her own. She knows deep down that she needs to get out. She just is not emotionally strong enough to do it..


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Blogger Linda said...

Unfortunately it seems that the only for our kids to learn is through their own mistakes and not by listening to those of us who may have made the same mistakes ourselves.

Hopefully the lightbulb goes on soon and she realizes that this guy is a waste of time and energy. Fortunately, you'll be there for her when she does.

On a good note, at least you've got a gorgeous moon to howl at!

September 4, 2009 at 11:44 AM  
Blogger Kathy said...

Isn't having 'adult' children wonderful!? HOOOOWWWWLLL!!!!

September 4, 2009 at 12:26 PM  
Blogger Betsy from Tennessee said...

Keep HOWLING Patty... You deserve it... I'm sorry for what all you are going through..

Your sister will probably be better off once she's out --and starts her life over again. Hopefully, their debt was mostly HIS debt and not theirs or hers. Sounds like she has enough debt with her school loans. Maybe she can get those reduced now..

Sorry about your daughter--but she just keeps making bad choices when it comes to men it seems. Too bad for her child and child to be.

Good Luck!!!! Life isn't easy.

Hope you have a great weekend.

September 4, 2009 at 7:22 PM  
Blogger jaz said...

it is all just life! as long as everyone is healthy it will roll along the way it is supposed to.

September 5, 2009 at 6:57 AM  
Blogger Ruth said...

Been there, seen it, got the t-shirt! Here's a big sisterly howl...OOOWWWW!

September 5, 2009 at 8:35 AM  
Blogger peppylady (Dora) said...

I yet haven't any trouble with my adult children. But I know I have to bit my tongue.

Coffee is on and isn't the moon beutiful

September 5, 2009 at 10:07 PM  
Blogger Anna said...

Patty, I can feel your pain. My daughter is the same way and it seems that they all believe we know nothing, right? I guess making it to their adulthood means we are just lucky? Keep the faith though. I was like that when I was a lot younger and I learned. So will your daughter. Just stay on her side and it will hopefully pass.

September 8, 2009 at 6:57 AM  

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